The moment I start to even feel jealous for a second though, I snap myself out of it by telling myself how good it will feel to be in that position one day. I’ll look back on this point in my life, and remember the stress and frustration, and SWEET MAPLE SYRUP will it feel good to know I don’t have to deal with that ever again.
I am a part of quite a few Facebook Groups now that revolve around finances. While they run the gamut in terms of what subsection of financial independence they deal with, the one I’m currently pretty involved in is the ChooseFI group. I’ve mentioned this group in other posts, but essentially it’s a group of fans of the ChooseFI podcast, who post on a pretty broad range of topics.
One of my favorite posts that they do, for example, is every Friday the admins make a post that asks, “What was the ONE THING you did this week to make your life easier, happier, wealthier, more efficient, etc.? Take action each and every week and let us know!”
It’s a great topic, because the responses can be at both ends of the extreme, and everywhere in between. Some people will say things like, “I figured out a way to make toothpaste out of old shoelaces and saved $1.89!” While others are like, “I bought my 2,983rd rental property all while being President of the United States!”
Obviously I made the responses up, but the point is that you find some really valuable and cool things in the replies, some of which will be popping up on this blog in the form of future Tip Jar tips.
However the group can frankly be a bit overwhelming at times for someone in my financial situation. I would say that better than half of the posts on the group are people hitting some really killer milestones:
“We paid of the house today, and are debt free at the age of 32!”
“I have $100K in cash. How should I invest it?”
“We went to Disneyland and paid for the entire thing in cash!”
“We have so many golden toilets that I turned one of them into a pet bed!”
Again… made that last one up, but it would be pretty frickin’ sweet if you think about it…
I on the other hand would be making posts like this:
“I paid off 9 dollar jeans at Target today!”
“I have $100 in cash. How should I invest it? Nevermind. Forgot about car tabs being due.”
“We went to the grocery story for milk and eggs and paid for the entire thing in cash!”
“We have so many leaking toilets, I turned one of them off!”
It’s really difficult to not fall into a mindset of being envious or jealous of the people who make those awesome posts. They have sacrificed and planned, and are now living the life that they truly want to live.
I on the other hand have lived fast and loose with my money, and am now hating life each time I look at my bank statement.
The moment I start to feel jealous for even a second though, I snap myself out of it by telling myself how good it will feel to be in that position one day. I’ll look back on this point in my life, and remember the stress and frustration, and SWEET MAPLE SYRUP will it feel good to know I don’t have to deal with that ever again.
Tangent: People often ask me what food I miss most since I went on my health kick and dropped nearly 100 el-bees. I tell them it’s maple syrup. There is nothing in the world like a steaming stack of pancakes, butter slowly spiraling towards the edge of the stack, with delicious maple syrup drizzling down the sides.
THANK JUPITER I HAVE THIS DELICIOUS HARD BOILED EGG TO TAKE ITS PLACE.
Almost the same thing…
But not even close.
Don’t treat your debt like the lottery, hoping that you’ll hit some big windfall and be financially set. Debt is very much a math problem, and one that you have to work at to solve. It sucks to be in debt and you need to sacrifice to dig out, but that’s frankly okay.
Look at others who have done it and let it flick at that little jealousy spot on the back of your brain, but instead of letting it take control, repurpose that envy into motivation! Tell yourself that when you have solved this math problem, which is really just a matter of time, it’s going to feel AMAZING to be sitting in that same position of financial independence.
AND THEN ONCE YOU ARE THERE…
Make sure you mentor and guide others. Remember what it felt like to carry that much anxiety on your shoulders. Remember the stress, frustration, and agony. Remember the feeling of isolation at times. Find someone(s) in that situation and guide them as much as you can. Give back and help people avoid being financially illiterate like I was.
The Facebook groups are such an amazing part of my life now. I get guidance, I get questions answered, and I get motivated! Yes at times it can be a little “shoelace toothpaste” crazy, but overall there really isn’t much like it in terms of valuable resources for me in my current situation.
Sh*t I almost don’t even mind that the Russians are probably going to use the damn thing to launch Red Dawn for real one day.
Thanks for stopping by, and keep digging!
If you’d like to leave me a comment below, I’d love to hear from you! I’m always on the lookout for great Facebook groups too! The ChooseFI was shared with me in the comments of a previous post, and has been nothing short of life changing. Doesn’t have to be just FB either. I love hearing about new podcasts, Reddit forums, and anything else you’ve got. Give me the scoop below!